Yesterday would have been Dr. Wayne Dyer’s 77th birthday. For those of you not familiar with his work, he was one of the most profound spiritual teachers of my lifetime. His books, teachings, and wisdom have been a major change agent for me over the last seven years. Introduced to me by my friend and previous business coach, Deseri Garcia, his kind, gentle soul touched millions of lives and created shifts in perspectives to anyone who has been open to it. His Spirit continues to shine even though he passed in 2015.
Last night, I watched his film The Shift for the second time. While it may be a little bit cheesy (the fact that Portia de Rossi is in it makes the cheesy worth it), it couldn’t be more accurate to how many people live their lives, just caught up in themselves. Hell, I catch myself in some of the same behavior patterns demonstrated in the film, when I try to do everything myself, forgetting that all I need to do is BE and BE of service… and I have to take a step back and remember what the hell is up. Bottom line, my life is bigger than me, and I’m here to serve and to love. Last night, I was reminded of that, so I want to share a couple of things that really pulled at my heart strings.
How many of you have had a series of shitty things happen to you? Let’s say a bad week, where your car breaks down, your bank account goes in the red, you find out your friends or people you thought were your friends are talking smack behind your back, you stub your toe, whatever it is, but it gets so bad you’re in desperation mode, thinking, “Wow, when it rains, it pours…”
While it may be hard to believe, the bad things and the good things that happen, you’re actually attracting those things to you. One point Dr. Dyer makes in the film, and in his books, “You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.” Wow. That’s pretty profound and if you’re open to actually taking a look deep inside of yourself, it can be life changing. So, this leads us to the Law of Attraction, which is what my book, UNKCUFWITHABLE is based on.
Every thought, every action, everything you do in your life is what creates your reality. When you focus on loneliness, lack, fear, insecurity, all you’re doing is creating an energy field around you that is going to continue to bring more of the same. When you focus on abundance, peace, love, joy, then you’ll attract more of those things. Wayne always wrote, “What you focus on expands.” It is true both ways. And if the Universe is giving you a shit week, it would perhaps be a good time to have a real conversation with yourself. In addition, Wayne always spoke about feeling GOOD. What kind of energy do you want around you? Do you want the kind of energy that makes you feel GOOD? Or would you prefer to feel bad? I don’t know about you, but I want to feel good. And your feeling senses (kinda like spidey senses) are a good indicator of what’s working or not.
But alas, YOU have the power to change things around. You see, often times we forget just how powerful we are because we’re too caught up in the grind. Whether you’re religious or spiritual or not, you came from this brilliant, mighty source that knows NOTHING of lack or sadness or hopelessness, and for many of us, we forget to, or just don’t tap into that power Source, which is really our true nature.
So, how do you tap in? How do you get to that place? A good start would be with silence. And in that silence, a whole fuckinlotta gratitude. (Baby steps here.)
Think about this: Did you get to sleep in a bed last night? Did you have clean water to drink? Do you have a job you get to go to? Do you have eyes to read this post? And ears to listen to music? I mean, there are SO many things to be grateful for on a MINUTE basis that we take for granted. What can you think of now in this moment that you’re grateful for? Go write down five things. My girl, Deseri, used to have us do this exercise. It can really put things into perspective.
I’m going to be discussing my meditation practice over the next week and share some of my book as well, because I feel it could be helpful to those who are looking for a change. But I’m going to leave you with this one final thought that Dr. Dyer left us with in his film…
“Wherever you are at whatever age, you’re only one thought away from changing your life.”
Feel free to leave any feedback in the comments. I’d like to know what’s working for you.