Over the years, I’ve learned to practice nonattachment. I’ve had people tell me I’m selfish for this. I’ve had people tell me that because of this practice, I don’t really care about other people. I’ve had people tell me I should be responsible for other people’s feelings. I’ve had people tell me I’m wrong. But here’s the deal. Practicing nonattachment for me, means me being open to being who I am, regardless of what others think of me.
I have been in relationships in my past where I’ve just been shit on. I’m okay with that, because I’ve grown tremendously out of the experiences I’ve had. But it wasn’t until I surrendered my necessity for a certain outcome, that I was truly able to be free. And it’s something I have to remind myself on a daily basis.
It’s interesting because to me, uncertainty breeds my faith and trust in the Universe. I have one way of seeing things. Others have other ways of seeing things. I cannot control the opinions or feelings of other people. All I can do is be the best me, living my own truth, in order to evolve into a better human being. I can’t be responsible for appeasing someone else if it brings an attitude or negative thought out that I don’t want to be in or live in.
Manipulation tactics are so easy to fall into because we want to please people by nature. At least I do, anyway. So this has been a pretty big revelation in my life. And when I fall back into my old ways or patterns of thinking, I can easily pivot out of them remembering that everything is as it should be in this moment, at this place, at this time. The only thing I can do is ask for guidance and remember my true nature as a loving and accepting human. And I certainly don’t have to live in the insecurities of others. Neither do you. Nor is it your job to take responsibility for how other people feel.
I encourage you to be the best you that you can be and let the Universe gently bring in a tribe of people who can help you be true to yourself. You are not selfish in anyway for knowing that what is meant for you will not pass you by, and also knowing you can’t lose something that is good for you.