Ruin is a Gift

I gotta be honest with you, I’m not that great with change. Yet, somehow I thrive on it. I'm mean, let's cut the BS…change is scary. Having the courage to make changes in your life with things that aren’t working can be super intense and sometimes enough to send us on a spiral. 

Guilty.

I have been going through so many changes the past few months, I almost feel like I’m being tested by the Universe. I feel like the more I want to inspire and teach, the more lessons I somehow have to learn (aka shit i gotta go through) in order to do that. It’s like when I wrote Unf🩷ckwithable and shared that I literally had to live the title in order to move forward. Well, that’s where I am right now.

I recently listened to Lewis Howes’ podcast with guest, Elizabeth Gilbert. It really hit home for me. If you don’t remember, Elizabeth Gilbert wrote the brilliant book, Eat, Pray, Love. Confession - I never READ it, however, I watched the film when it came out years ago. I remember being so moved. And I remember there was a reason I was moved, so this past Saturday night, I decided to watch it again. And out of it, I was reminded of this beautiful lesson:

Ruin is a gift. Ruin is the road to transformation.

It’s like the heartbreak you won’t let go of because it hurts too good. We all want things to stay the same. Settle for living in misery because we’re afraid of change, of things crumbling to ruins.

Maybe my life hasn’t been so chaotic. It’s just the world that is and the only real trap is getting attached to any of it.

We must always be prepared for endless waves of transformation.

Everything changes. Everything transforms. I need to continue to remind myself that I am exactly where I need to be. That truth gets muddled when I feel like I should be further than where I am. That’s all just a lie. I am okay here and now. I am thriving here and now. YOU are okay here and now. You are thriving here and now. Furthermore, when we feel like things are crumbling all around us, it’s because they had to, because maybe we were too scared or weak to demolish what we needed to ourselves. And it's all okay. And is going to BE okay. 

If you, like me, sometimes question wtf is happening and what’s going on around you, maybe it’s time to take a look at what you really feel on the inside. Are you moving in love or are you moving in fear? I certainly know which I’d prefer.

I’m wishing you the best weekend full of moving boldly and moving in love.