The Price of Expansion

I want to talk about dreams today. Not the subconscious kind - but the goals we set for ourselves. The ones we think about, talk about, maybe even journal about… but haven't actually done yet.

 

Because when you finally start doing the things you say you want to do? That shit can be terrifying. Especially when it requires a version of you that you haven't fully stepped into yet.

 

Going to the next level always requires a fundamental shift within you.

New actions. New energy. New beliefs. And honestly? Doing new things can feel like free-fall.

 

I remember when I got the call to join Cold. It was one of the scariest yeses of my life. It meant becoming a better musician than I currently was. It meant performing on stages I had only ever dreamed of.

 

Dreaming is one thing.
Doing is another.

And the space between the two is where imposter syndrome loves to take root.

 

If you let it, it will keep you small.
That's when you have to micro-pivot into the truth:

 

You are capable. Everyone starts somewhere.
The only difference between those who dream and those who DO… is action.

 

Time will pass anyway - why not take action now?

 

This past week, I hosted my first Self-Worth Resets. I had never led a workshop before. I was teaching work I created - work about self-abandonment, pattern-breaking, rewriting your inner narrative, and presenting it. Completely new territory.

 

Was I scared?
Hell yes.

Could I have made excuses?
Absolutely.

Could I have told myself I didn't have enough followers, enough authority, enough whatever?
Yep.

Could I have spiraled into “Who am I to do this?” or “What if no one signs up?”
Easily.

 

And out of full transparency, I actually did spiral a little.
Until a dear friend said the words I needed to hear:

 

 

That landed.

And it reminded me - again - how important it is to surround yourself with people who don't let you shrink. The right people won't let your dreams die on the vine. They will challenge you, expand you, and hold you accountable to becoming who you say you want to be.

 

If I had let fear stop me, I'd be my own worst enemy. It would keep me from doing the very thing I really want to do.

 

 

It's kind of funny because before putting anything new into the world - a workshop, a book, a post, a video on social media - my famous last words are always: “Fuck it, let's go.” 

 

It's my version of Mel Robbins' 5-4-3-2-1.

Just do the damn thing. Which is also funny because my buddy, Michael Levine, yes, THE Michael Levine calls me the “Rock N Roll Mel Robbins," which I DO dream of impacting people on the scale she does one day, and I will keep working…

But the point is, you get better as you go. Just KEEP GOING. Keep moving toward the things that matter to you. Don't shrink because you're afraid of what other people will think. I did that for so long. 

 

Because when I created my self-worth framework, I knew it mattered I knew it had substance. I knew it was a real path forward. Toward understand and healing.

 

Today, my friend Kristina said something that really hit me:

 

“No one understands that self-worth is built, and healing is passed from person to person. This is the work you're doing for other people.”

 

My healing gave others permission to heal.
My questions made others braver with their own.
And over and over again, I see the same truth:

 

 

 

Dreams are always going to feel scary. They're supposed to because they require a version of you that doesn't fully exist yet.

Taking action toward them will always feel like a stretch.

 

 

But staying stuck?
Abandoning yourself?
Never even trying?

That's the real heartbreak.

 

So if you've been feeling the nudge - the whisper - the inner pull that you're meant for more…

If you're tired of the same patterns and ready for something different…
If you want to build the kind of self-worth that actually supports your dreams instead of sabotaging them…

 

This is your invitation.

 

I'm hosting more Self-Worth Resets this month. 
If you're ready to shift from fear into aligned action, from self-doubt into self-trust, and from dreaming into DOING…

 

Your next chapter starts with one brave yes.

 

Join me this Saturday, December 13 at noon PST / 3pm EST.

Register here ➡️ ZOOM REGISTRATION 

 

I hope you all have the most amazing Friday ever!