I've been thinking a lot about change - and about the goals I still want to hit before the year ends. It's wild that we've only got three months left. Time is flying.
Two weeks ago I went to Summit of Greatness at the Dolby Theatre. Lewis Howes has always inspired me, and so has Brendon Burchard - his book The Motivation Manifesto shifted how I think about motivation this year. While I was there, I made a big decision: I invested in their mastermind. One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is to invest in ourselves. Since joining, I've been looking at everything differently - more focused, more intentional, and more devoted to serving. (Let me know if you want to learn more about it.)
To finish my book this year, I had to change my inputs. I eliminated some people, some activities, and alcohol, because I knew I needed to do things differently. And here's something I've learned: when we want to change a behavior, we can't just remove it - we have to replace it.
I keep coming back to Benjamin Hardy's idea: be your future self now. That question guides my choices:
Does this align with the life I'm building?
If it doesn't, it's a no. I still believe in rest (we need it), but I'm in a focused season. I'm excited about getting this message out, coaching more, speaking more, and helping people in a deeper way - because that's what my future self wants to be doing more of when I am not on the road with my band.
I've set some lofty goals, and I want to go even deeper into the work of self-worth and future-self identity with others. All of that means changing my behaviors now so I can live with my future self later.
Here's what I also believe: the Universe works with us when we're aligned - when we live in joy, in truth, and in our unique expression. So many of us have been conditioned to overlook our own needs. That ends now. No matter where you're starting from, you are capable.
A weekend challenge (3 minutes to set up)
Name your future self. One line. (“I am the person who ___.”)
Choose one behavior to replace (not remove). What's your upgrade?
Make a daily micro-action (5 - 10 minutes) and do it for 7 days.
Hit reply and tell me your one change. I'll cheer you on.
If this message resonates, you'll love my new book The Girl Who Cried Love: A Pivot to Self-Worth - now available everywhere books are sold (ebook, paperback, and audiobook narrated by me). And if the book speaks to you, an honest Amazon review (even a couple of sentences) helps more than you know.
Thank you for being here and for doing this work with me.
Here's to the courage to rewrite our stories - and to love ourselves first.
Here's to the courage to rewrite our stories - and to love ourselves first.
Live hard. Love harder.
All my love,
Lindsay
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Lindsay, You are Inspiring AF, always! I love your Friday emails. They always apply to what I need to hear; a giant spoon of food for thought.
I love ~
Spicy
Name your future self. One line.
I am successful enough to not only have a house and provide for my family by myself, but am also successful enough to donate back.
Choose one behavior to replace (not remove). What’s your upgrade?
Replacing spite with gratitude.
Make a daily micro-action
Shifting off of giving all of my energy to everyone else’s success and start focusing on mine.
I’m grateful to have you in my people that I am the sum of 💙